Wednesday, March 12, 2008
Stuck in the Middle
I'm stuck between two dear friends who are on opposite sides of an issue. The conditions of the situation have caused me to give some serious thought to my tendencies-how I express myself, what causes me to argue with other people, how much control I have over my emotions, and in what circumstances do I feel that I must contend the correctness of my opinion at the expense of the unity of a friendship, an organization or the feelings of other people.
I know that this moment will pass, and my friends will eventually move on, but they will probably never be quite the same. I hope that I will be able to learn from the situation and take much more care about expressing myself. In many situations where I have the chance to speak publicly, such as during classes at church or in posting to my online book group, or even here on my blog, I seem to too easily start crusading and preaching. I take things so seriously sometimes. I hate that about myself and often wish that someone would just put their hand over my mouth. Seeing the damage that has been done here by well-meaning people doing more talking than listening convinces me more than ever of the value of seeking first to understand before seeking to be understood.
Posted by Kellie on Wednesday, March 12, 2008